I have to admit this blog gave me extreme anxiety about writing.聽Not in the respect that my father (Thomas Gibson), my husband (Alan) nor my father-in-law (James Hooper) are horrible fathers. It鈥檚 just very difficult to express my absolute gratitude to these individuals.聽These three fathers and grandfathers play such an important and vital role both in mine, my boys (Zachary and Myles), my stepson (Nicholas) and my grandson鈥檚 (Landon) lives. I truly don鈥檛 know where we鈥檇 be today without each of them.

Fathers are wonderful people! They are just a little misunderstood and because of this we do not usually or constantly sing their praises as often as we should. A father鈥檚 work is endless and, oftentimes, thankless.

Dads have been described as everything from being role models and superheroes, to changing diapers and putting up with 鈥渦s鈥 through thick and thin. Dads/fathers play an important role in our and our children鈥檚 life. We as a society have associated a dad/father as the man who pays the bills, maintains the house and vehicles, and as protector. While the mother cares for the children, attends school functions and nurses all our children’s illnesses and injuries.

Why don鈥檛 we as a society associate fathers as caregivers?聽In this day-in-age, some have had the dual role as both mom and dad. This type of father has managed to balance life without issues;聽 and truthfully from what I鈥檝e seen and had the pleasure to experience their children tend to be a more well-rounded, sensitive and appreciative individual.

When I asked my boys to give me some positive qualities about their dad, Alan, besides the basic things such as; a good cook, loves to grill, and helps with their laundry and homework.聽 Here is what they said:

  • 鈥淚 like spending time with my dad especially when he takes me camping and fishing鈥-Zachary, 11
  • 鈥淢y dad, Myles and I ride our bikes around the neighborhood a lot during the summer鈥
  • 鈥淢y dad is also really good at basketball when he plays outside with us鈥
  • 鈥淚 like it when I get to help my dad build things鈥-Myles, 7
  • 鈥淒ad makes good camp fires so we can have smores鈥
  • 鈥淲orms scare me so when we go fishing, dad puts worms on mine and my brothers鈥 hooks鈥

This is what the boys had to say about their grandfathers:

  • 鈥淏oth papa and grandpa Jim help me with my math homework if I am stuck鈥-Zachary
  • 鈥淧apa takes me to school when I have to go in early鈥
  • 鈥淧apa taught me how to swim鈥
  • 鈥淕randpa Jim looks like an older version of dad鈥-Myles
  • 鈥淧apa is going to give me some golf balls and teach me how to play golf鈥
  • 鈥淏oth Papa and grandpa Jim like beer!鈥

Happy Father鈥檚 Day to our three special men and to all the fathers!


Lindsay lives in New York with her husband, Alan, and her sons, Zachary and Myles.

*Note: 鈥淚nfusing Love: A Mom鈥檚 View,鈥 is a blog collection of personal opinions and a representation of individuals experiences. While extensive efforts are made to ensure accuracy of the content, the blog entries do not represent HFA or its Board of Directors. The blog is also not intended to be construed as medical advice or the official opinion/position of HFA, its staff, or its Board of Directors. Readers are strongly encouraged to discuss their own medical treatment with their healthcare providers.


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